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TommyPaineatWork
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posted 16 August 2002 12:59 AM
Funny, last week my supervisor played a practicle joke on a co-worker. The co-worker tried to get him back by having me insert a picture into the reams of charts I was preparing for the supervisor that night.I'm usually one to join in practicle jokes, and actually love setting them up, but this picture was of one of the Olson twins in a tube top, and I wouldn't have any part of it. The co-worker was insistant, and I ended up taking out the picture and destroying it. I'm no prude, and I'm certainly no stranger to porn of all kinds-- as long as it's a portrayal of activities between consenting adults of the same species. I checked with my daughters and found out the Olson twins are 16, but I think the photo in question was taken before that. Attempting to sexualize young kids in this way is creepy.
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Michelle
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posted 16 August 2002 11:30 AM
Oh yes, apparently many of them DID, 'lance. They mentioned that in this documentary too - I think it was one of the girls in the Mickey Mouse club that they used as an example. Doesn't surprise me at all. And it's pretty creepy - it's this huge cultural thing down south. The girls are taught to be very sexual, very flirty. The relationship between the girls and their fathers and male coaches and adults was just...I can't put my finger on it. It wasn't overtly, genitally sexual. But it was very...sexually suggestive, maybe? The one girl would bat her eyes at her daddy, be a lot more physically demonstrative than otherwise, that kind of thing. Flirt to get what she wants, act suggestive and have her father compliment her on it, etc. Just really creepy. I was a real Daddy's girl growing up, and I remember lots of hugs and physical contact. But with these girls there was a palpable dimension to the relationship that my father wouldn't have DREAMED of encouraging - not because it was explicitly sexual, but because it was incredibly suggestive. Pretty scary if you ask me.
From: I've got a fever, and the only prescription is more cowbell. | Registered: May 2001
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nonsuch
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posted 16 August 2002 01:32 PM
quote: What the fuck is wrong with people?
I have a list... Pertinent to this topic: Peter Pan syndrome, cultural obsession with sex, the human being as an object of trade and consumption.... That's what makes this stuff not only possible but highly profitable. And nothing says "America" like profit! ...poverty, unequal opportunity, ego-privation Some of the parents just want to give their kids a chance at fame and fortune - the good life, as they imagine it. Some of the parents use their child as an extension of their own ego; a second chance to achieve what they want for themselves. In the beauty-pegeant world, it's usually mothers pushing daughters. Fathers try to push their sons into sport for the same reasons.
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'lance
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posted 16 August 2002 02:29 PM
quote: Her mother constantly harangued and pushed an obviously very ill child through the whole thing. A tag on the end noted that she died two weeks after the last pageant they shot, where she had com in second.
On my first read of your post, I missed the exact nature of the girl's illness, and wondered if she died from anoerxia. Thing is, I imagine that's happened in this context, too. Edited to add: quote: Some of the parents use their child as an extension of their own ego; a second chance to achieve what they want for themselves. In the beauty-pegeant world, it's usually mothers pushing daughters. Fathers try to push their sons into sport for the same reasons.
Yes, that's a good analogy, though I've seen some pretty bloody-minded mothers in the stands, too. Hockey parents, collectively, can be as ugly a bunch as any I've encountered. [ August 16, 2002: Message edited by: 'lance ]
From: that enchanted place on the top of the Forest | Registered: Jul 2001
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nonsuch
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posted 16 August 2002 06:28 PM
Is there as much difference between acting and modelling as i think? It seems to me child actors potray normal children - so it's just work. (While i'm not all that keen on children working, i'd rather send them in front of a camera than down a mine.)On the other hand, baby beauty pegeants sure look sick, and my problem with modelling has always been the sexual angle: they take a 14-year-old girl, make her up to look 25, then shoot her in poses like a 7-year-old. That can't possibly appeal to anyone but a pedophile. There was an LCBO poster a while ago, featuring a pretty little girl of about 6, made up, lit and posed in a very coquettish way. It was scary. At, or about, the same time, there was one with a little boy in a fireman's helmet, who looked cute and natural. In juxtaposition, it was even more disturbing. Those posters depicted one child as a child and the other as a mistress. Several men saw it right away, when i called their attention to it. (One was an LCBO employee; the little girl's picture was gone from that store next day.) Mostly, people had not noticed. We don't look closely or critically at the million images in our daily lives; we don't know whether, or how, they're affecting our attitudes.
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Timebandit
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posted 17 August 2002 07:36 PM
quote: Is there as much difference between acting and modelling as i think? It seems to me child actors potray normal children - so it's just work. (While i'm not all that keen on children working, i'd rather send them in front of a camera than down a mine.)
There's not really that much difference, in my opinion. I've done both, they're different aspects of the same kind of thing. Of course, the extent of the difference depends on the role. And as far as acting being better than being down a mine... Well, I don't think the kids who died in the making of "The Twilight Zone" some years ago would say so... I've often wondered how their parents reconciled putting their children in such a dangerous situation for money. Then again, maybe I'm a little more cynical than I should be.
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Timebandit
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posted 18 August 2002 12:26 PM
I think that we become adults who are responsible for our actions around 16 - 18 years old. And at that point, you have to take responsibility for what you do.On the other hand, if you are a parent, you are largely responsible for what that young adult has learned up to that point, and that certainly has a large bearing on who that adult is, at least in the first few years. So, while Britney Spears may be dressing herself (or her "image consultant", business manager, whatever), she's been taught to value those tight little buns as a commodity. In my opinion, her parents taught her to prostitute herself, and so she continues to. It's what she knows. And most of us, to some degree, return to what we know at some point, whether we rebel against it or not.
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dale cooper
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posted 18 August 2002 12:36 PM
I agree with that. But let's take this back to a topic I recently got a little fire over - the role and responsibility of the parent. I will first off admit that I am not a parent, but I am a member of the community, and in some places, that means I have a responsibility to ensure that everyone in the community turns out well-rounded.I just posted in the string on rape sentencing my belief that we are turning into what I like to call a "hyper-community". We are so over-populated now that we no longer feel in touch with each other in our society and there is no pull to work together to better ourselves as a group. We act like a million anti-social beings all lumped together in the same land-space. My point is this - Britney Spears acts on what she knows. She has been mistreated and misinformed since birth. She is a danger to our society because she teaches young girls to be sexual objects and young boys to treat girls as sexual objects. However, we cannot fully blame this on her. Her parents and her crew have created her, and she has just gone along with the act. So what can we do to stop parents from damaging their children in this way? I'm not suggesting that we enforce all parents to raise their children in the same everyone-be-a-clone manner, but are there not limits to what we can accept? These are not just other peoples children. They are part of our society and they have an impact on everything we are and everything we do. We have a responsibility to each other that no one acts upon any longer. I once heard a statement by David Suzuki which I can't remember word for word but the point of it was that if you see something you KNOW is wrong, you can't be afraid to speak out about it.
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Timebandit
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posted 18 August 2002 12:57 PM
quote: She is a danger to our society because she teaches young girls to be sexual objects and young boys to treat girls as sexual objects.
I don't think that's necessarily true. I used to hold a similar opinion on the ethics of Madonna's music/lyrics in the '80s, but I look at it rather differently now. The object is not to stifle speech or actions we disagree with, but to be media literate. Britney Spears can't teach my daughters to be sexual objects if I actively teach them to deconstruct the message and to value themselves. That, as clersal just pointed out, is my responsibility. quote: So what can we do to stop parents from damaging their children in this way? I'm not suggesting that we enforce all parents to raise their children in the same everyone-be-a-clone manner, but are there not limits to what we can accept? These are not just other peoples children. They are part of our society and they have an impact on everything we are and everything we do. We have a responsibility to each other that no one acts upon any longer.
In a sense, you are advocating enforcement of parenting values, and I think that's intrusive. I might not agree, I may even be disgusted, but once I advocate telling other people how to raise their kids and with what values, I open the door to let other people do the same to me. Perhaps there are those who feel it's criminal that I'm not raising my chidren to believe in Jesus, or feel that I shouldn't allow Barbie in the house... Parents all screw up somewhere, in varying degrees, and the best you can hope for is to get it mostly right. If you're interested in effecting societal change through children but don't have any of your own, become a "Big Brother", or volunteer somewhere that has kids' programs. But don't go the route of telling people how to raise their kids. Chances are, they're doing the best they can with what they have. You'll also find, dale, that once you've got direct contact with kids, much of what you think you know.... You don't. They have this way of not cooperating with theories. I've never known a kid who couldn't surprise me and make me re-evaluate what I "know" on some level.
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dale cooper
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posted 18 August 2002 02:15 PM
quote: The object is not to stifle speech or actions we disagree with, but to be media literate. Britney Spears can't teach my daughters to be sexual objects if I actively teach them to deconstruct the message and to value themselves.
But this is the hard part. How can we get parents to take on this responsibility with their children? I'm not suggesting we put all parents who let their children listen to Britney in jail. But what about social ills likethe child beauty pagent? Or the adult beauty pagent for that matter. I don't want to step on anyone's toes or do away with people's freedoms, but where is the line to be drawn? Why is it illegal to show a movie of a naked child at a porn theatre, but beauty pagents are ok? It's a matter of relativity. Currently, child beauty pagents are legal, so we would view making them illegal as an infringement on our rights. At one point, gladiator matches and slavery were also legal, but we have since come to view them as harmful to the betterment of society. quote: In a sense, you are advocating enforcement of parenting values, and I think that's intrusive
I know that this is a case where as soon as you open the door, millions of people are going to stick their feet in and try and get their ideas as part of enforced parenting. But again, there are parenting ideas which have been outlawed due to the fact that they drag us down as a society. Corporal punishment for one. Locking your children in tiny boxes without supper for days on end. These are things which do nothing but damage the children (in referencing corp. punishment, I refer only to those who took it too far and beat their children. I in no way, shape or form present a personal view on this matter). So can we not also say, for example, that placing your children in a pagent or into modelling where (despite the protests of some) they are being reduced to nothing more than sexual objects? Has there ever been a case of someone coming out a better person for having lived their childhood on the beauty pagent circuit?
quote: once you've got direct contact with kids, much of what you think you know.... You don't.
I am looking very forward to having children of my own to destroy every idea I have of child-raising and humble me beyond recognition. But until then....
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nonsuch
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posted 18 August 2002 04:47 PM
Trying to change this at the individual child or parent level may be virtuous, but it will not be effective. The whole society's values are so badly skewed that you'll be swimming against an overwhelmingly strong current. (As a recovering parent, i know this!)The only action that will work is, in a sense, inaction. Don't watch the pegeants, don't buy whatever the sponsor is pushing; don't buy the records, the clothes, the cosmetics, the videos, the magazines, the surgery, the image, the product, the standard, the hype. Make the girl-flesh industry unprofitable, and it will collapse. As long as there are big bucks to be made, it will flourish, and eat more kids.
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Timebandit
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posted 18 August 2002 04:52 PM
quote: I don't want to step on anyone's toes or do away with people's freedoms, but where is the line to be drawn? ... Currently, child beauty pagents are legal, so we would view making them illegal as an infringement on our rights. At one point, gladiator matches and slavery were also legal, but we have since come to view them as harmful to the betterment of society.
If you're looking to draw lines, you know you're going to step on toes. That's a given. I think you are, to some extent, doing away with certain liberties people take in raising their kids. Is it a good thing or a bad thing? Perhaps. The other thing, too, is that gladiators and slavery have not been part of this society, but of previous ones. So that argument doesn't hold much water, in my opinion. Obviously, enough people think that beauty pageants are desirable (or at least harmless) and that banning them would infringe on a person's right to raise his/her child as s/he sees fit. quote: But again, there are parenting ideas which have been outlawed due to the fact that they drag us down as a society. Corporal punishment for one.
Corporal punishment is legal, and most people feel that "spanking" or striking your child is an acceptable form of "discipline". I tend not to concur. However, as over 75% of other parents feel that it is, I make the difference by not hitting mine, and being open about why I don't when asked. The rest is within the law and none of my business.
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dale cooper
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posted 18 August 2002 08:03 PM
quote: The other thing, too, is that gladiators and slavery have not been part of this society, but of previous ones. So that argument doesn't hold much water, in my opinion. Obviously, enough people think that beauty pageants are desirable (or at least harmless) and that banning them would infringe on a person's right to raise his/her child as s/he sees fit.
But that's the whole point. At some point these things WERE a part of A society (whether it was ours or not, it was a closely related one. Take, if you want, putting Japanese people in interment camps during WW2) At some point, someone stood up and said, "hey... that's not so nice" and went against the grain. At the time, it must have seemed that they were infringing on plantation owners rights to own slaves, but by today's standards... What about a child's rights to not be raised as a sexual object? As far as the corporal punishment thing goes, well, I thought it was illegal. None of my parent friends hit/spank their children. My mistake. However, you can substitute another argument in there. Locking children in root cellars for a weekend as punishment, for example. I have to agree, ideally, there should be no societal intervention into child-raising. But ideally, there should be no need for it to be there either. I don't advocate a book of set rules for this sort of thing. But there should be boundaries. ie. You shall not place your child on display as a being with any sexual appeal, or with the intention to use them as a means to generate income for yourself.
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Michelle
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posted 19 August 2002 08:14 PM
Wow. That's really something, huh?That would be a real moral predicament for me, because I would wonder whether I had a moral obligation to tell the wife of the cheating guy if I knew about it. Not because of the psychological aspect of cheating, but because of the very real physical dangers involved. Personally, if my husband were going around screwing a bunch of prostitutes, I would want my friend to tell me about it, because I would want to protect myself physically from whatever diseases he picks up.
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