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Michelle
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posted 30 November 2006 04:16 AM      Profile for Michelle   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
I'm not sure what I'm doing. I'll probably end up going to the candlelight vigil here in Toronto.

I know there's a thread in the activism or regional (not sure which) forum announcing a December 6th event, but I was thinking maybe we could have a thread where feminists could talk about what they plan to do to mark the day, and just to talk about the day in general. A memorial thread in itself.

I can't remember it affecting me that strongly at the time - I wasn't very political at that time, and while I identified as a feminist, I think I was probably somewhat swayed by the "it was just one crazy guy" opinion that overwhelmed the media, and I didn't really think of it much beyond that, although I didn't go out of my way to declare feminists opportunists the way so many people did at the time (and still do now). At the time, I hadn't experienced much sexism myself (or at least I didn't recognize it as such), not having been an adult woman in a sexist world and not having the analysis to understand the sexism I did experience as a young woman. I also had no aspirations for higher education at the time, so maybe that's why I didn't relate as much to a bunch of young, female engineering students.

But, over the years, having experienced sexism in marriage, in religious institutions, in the workplace, and just in general, and becoming more aware of outright abuse of women, domestic and otherwise, this occasion has come to mean a great deal more to me than it did at the time.

So, I have no personal story about where I was when I heard - I have no idea because it didn't have a great impact on me at the time. But the memorial date itself does now.

(BTW, in case it isn't clear - this thread isn't for non-feminists to argue about why this day isn't relevant, or why the massacre has nothing to do with feminism.)


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morningstar
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posted 30 November 2006 09:03 AM      Profile for morningstar     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
we are having a film showing, Reframing the Montreal Massacre" and vigil at the public library here in Stratford.
it has been organized by our women's shelter here
[I really don't know how they find the time to do all the wonderful things that they do.]

when it happened I really bought the "madman' theory and only in the last few years began to really understand the true inmplications of the act and how it was handled in the media.


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posted 06 December 2006 05:09 AM      Profile for writer     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
I'm going to start giving monthly to this:
The December 6 Fund of Toronto

(The site also has a comprehensive list of Toronto events to go to today: calendar.

Status of Women has a national Calendar of Activities, if you are still looking for a way to mark the day.

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posted 06 December 2006 07:30 AM      Profile for writer     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
Here's what I'm going to tonight. (Unfortunately, I have to miss the vigil.)

quote:
Societal Indifference: Is It Costing Native Women Their Lives?

St. Lawrence Centre Forum
Free Admission
December 6, 2006 - 8 pm
Jane Mallett Theatre at StLC

Young Indigenous women are at least five times more likely than all other women to die as the result of violence. Hundreds of native women have been murdered or disappeared and their stories are only now being told. A few police forces and the Canadian government have taken some steps but statistics suggest a lot more needs to be done.

Consider this: 32 women - many of them Native - disappeared or died on a 500-mile stretch of road in Western Canada dubbed the Highway of Tears. Many of these crimes were not investigated and most are unsolved.

And this: Of the 60 women who disappeared from Vancouver's downtown eastside almost half were native. A British Columbia pig farmer is charged with the murder of 26 of these women. Jury selection begins in December and the trial is expected to get underway in January.

Join us for an art exhibit, a film showing and a panel discussion of the racial and social dimensions in the murders of native women and their treatment by the police, the courts, the media and a society that is slow to demand action.


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Cameron W
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posted 06 December 2006 10:51 AM      Profile for Cameron W   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
Here's what the Conservatives are doing...

http://www.pm.gc.ca/eng/media.asp?id=1442

quote:
“On December 6, 1989, the killing of 14 young women at l’École polytechnique de Montréal shocked Canadians across the land. As we mark this sad anniversary, let us renew our national resolve to prevent and eliminate violence against women.

“The motive behind the Montreal Massacre was hatred of women. That made it doubly horrifying because Canada not only prides itself as one of the most peaceful societies in the world, but also one that recognizes gender equality and upholds the rights of women.


A friend of mine pointed out that, "He does not mention his cuts to daycare or to Status of Women Canada, and he concludes by committing to "taking action to end violence against all Canadians, in all its forms." In so doing, he makes the problem of violence against women invisible."

I'm reminded every day why I'm so tired of politics as usual.


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Mini Cooper
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posted 06 December 2006 03:34 PM      Profile for Mini Cooper     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by Cameron W:
In so doing, he makes the problem of violence against women invisible."[/i]

How does he do that?


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Stargazer
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posted 06 December 2006 04:54 PM      Profile for Stargazer     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
Clearly by reframing violence. Just read that sentence. It speaks a lot in so little words.
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Michelle
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posted 06 December 2006 05:07 PM      Profile for Michelle   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
Just a reminder that this is the feminism forum, which is for feminists to discuss feminist issues from a feminist point of view. For those who are brand new to the forum, this is what I wrote about December 6th a couple of weeks ago when we started getting the same old, same old about how it really isn't a feminist or women's issue:

quote:
I'm taking a hard line on December 6th this year on babble. We're not putting up with anti-feminist whining or disingenuous "questions". If you don't understand/don't like/don't get the feminist relevance of/don't want to hear about December 6th memorials, then read instead of posting.

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posted 06 December 2006 05:57 PM      Profile for EmmaG        Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
It continues to amaze me that some right-wingers refuse to refer to the Montreal Massacre as violence against women. It's clear from Harper's release, that he wants to turn it into a "violence in general" message.

Unfortunately I couldn't attend a vigil here due to work, but I thought I would bring babblers attention to the "Silent Witness" program here, which is designed to keep the voice of Island women alive who have died from domestic violence. Shelly Molyneaux, who's mother was killed by her father after years of violent abuse, is travelling across the province to bring attention to the issue as part of this program.

quote:
Her mother’s common-law husband, Douglas Beamish, was sentenced to 18 years in prison for second-degree murder.

“We were doing a presentation at Westisle (high school) and Shelley phoned and asked if she could speak. It was her idea and she’s a very strong young lady.”

Leclair said the families of eight victims have all consented to having a loved one included as a silhouette in the moving presentation about family violence.


Does anyone else think 18 years was an extremely light sentence?


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posted 06 December 2006 07:36 PM      Profile for bigcitygal     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
This is a long piece, it's been circulating on the net so there's no copyright problem. This was written by a man, Marc Brzustowski, who I've never met, and whose words remind me that we aren't alone, and as feminists we must work with men for a world with less violence against women, which will lead to a world with less violence for everyone.

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ANTI-TERROR/ANTI-MALE VIOLENCE
While the sound of liberals collapsing to the right has long since drowned out the echoes of falling rubble in North America, we proclaim the deep racism of Western culture every time we say that the world changed on September 11.The location of the targets changed, as did the colour of most of the bodies, but the dominant way of the world has become more entrenched:massive violence in retaliation – male violence.

Some terrorism is more relevant.Some is more widespread.Some crimes get all the attention. Others get little.According to the 2000 United Nations State of the World Population report, 'around the world at least one woman in every three has been beaten, coerced into sex, or
otherwise abused in her lifetime.Most often the abuser is a member of her own family."In Canada, " 20 per cent of women in a intimate relationship have been assaulted by their male partner" with dozens of women killed by those current and former partners annually.According to Statistics Canada, 96,359 women and dependent children found refuge at women's shelters across the country in 1999-2000.According to Statistics Canada, that number represents less than 10% of the estimated need.

The terrorism that drives women into shelters, the violence that makes rape crisis centres necessary, the physical, sexual and emotional abuse that shatters lives globally, female and male, is practiced overwhelmingly by males. Let us have the courage, integrity and honesty to name it.
Now is a time for treason – against the war-making state, certainly, but more fundamentally against the global and entrenched notions of masculinity that fill the women's shelters, that establish and maintain systems of violence, oppression, exploitation and terror " with a global reach," such as those head-quartered at the Pentagon and the World Trade Centre, and the notions of masculinity that encourage men to hijack airplanes and smash them into such buildings in revenge.

Western states have practiced treason against their own nations for decades, let alone the traditions of criminal aggression those states have inflicted upon civilian populations of poorer regions which do not accept their station in the dominant order (the mass murder of Iraqi civilians through 10 years of bombing and sanctions of mass destruction and the bombing of Yugoslavia, to cite but two recent examples).And we are surprised that the policies and massacres committed in our name, if not chiefly in our interest, have pissed some people off. Long before September 11, our own democratic institutions were hijacked by those who front for money and private power although they didn't use exacto knives or do it all in one morning.

Males must become traitors to masculinity, not the biological reality, but to the social reality that uses the biology as a pretext for the distribution
of privilege and misery.Of course, the privilege ain't divvied up equal, as the violent class and racial divisions between males (and females) will readily attest.As males we must confront our fear of non-conformity and the misogyny and homophobia that we routinely employ to police one another in the service of male privilege.As males we must confront the routine terrorism that creates an internal population of female and child refugees throughout North America, where we live and practice this terror, laugh along with it or adopt silence in the face of it.

Notwithstanding the dearth of recent evidence, I believe that human beings can do better.Women have been doing so for some time. When the self - admitted terrorist for male privilege committed his 'political act' of mass murder at L'Ecole Polytechnique on December 6, 1989 – snuffing out the lives of 14 women for the "crime" of wanting to become engineers having been born female – he had already labelled them feminists first, although not on account of their personal political positions, aside from their obvious belief in the right to self-determination.When the terrorist asked men to leave the room so that he could "murder feminists," that is what they did.

When feminist groups began to respond on December 7, they did not pick up guns and start shooting males in revenge.They continued their task of
picking up the pieces and working for change to make males safe for feminism and the women's equality and self-determination at its core, certainly as defined by males who hate the word.The organized courage and effort of the feminist movement has done more (along with labour, environment, peace, gay and lesbian rights and anti-racism movements) that any of our supposedly great men of state, commerce and god to bring to reality the Western civilization that Gandhi, when asked, suggested was a good idea.

The female, and feminist, response to male violence in Canada and globally is over-whelmingly non-violence.This is the hope for females and males alike: non-violence, not the passivity, obedience and complicity of those males who so easily proclaim themselves against all violence, while doing nothing to stop any violence, usually naming female violence in the process.Rather, active resistance to injustice: withdrawal of obedience from the cultural, political and economic institutions of violence and privilege.If that resistance is based upon a willingness to endure suffering while refusing to inflict it upon others we can call it non-violence.

Our first premise must be that we do not wish horrors upon other human beings, no matter what their crimes.There must be consequences for those who inflict and practice injustice, violence and oppression, but they must not offend the goals of a humane and compassionate world of justice and equality, let alone liberal norms of due and open process.As Gandhi insisted, this is the core of non-violence:there can be no distinction between means and ends.The path to justice is the path of justice.

For most males, the risks of suffering are minimal for even significant acts of non-violent anti-terrorism and solidarity with women.The fact is that most men do not care about the welfare of women as a group, or are simply too afraid of the costs of non-conformity to make their concern public.It is a great advantage of those who hold power in our culture that the systems of mass indoctrination have succeeded in privatizing the best and most unifying elements of Western moral code to the strictly personal actions of individuals, where indeed they must apply although not to the exemption of powerful institutions, those who direct them, and those whose interests they truly serve.

While liberals are falling all over themselves in a mad rush for credibility with the nascent military-police state (losing the right to remain silent is just a nice way of saying "torture"), proving how well they can herd the masses, or how quickly they can jettison their "principles" in favour of "security," it is well worth
remembering that principles are truly worthy of the name only if we hold on to them precisely when it is most difficult to do so.

Males who believe in the principles of democratic self-determination and political and economic equality, males who count themselves opposed to the terrorism and violence that restrict these rights to privileged sectors, males who extend these principles to the majority of humanity know as "female", these males must proclaim these principles publicly for they are empty without the matching behaviour that validates them.

While all citizens who believe in these most basic rights must honestly examine their complicity with the forces that routinely violate them – stop paying war taxes, stop rewarding criminal syndicates with votes – it is we males who must shift our priorities from the sports sections, capitalist casinos and violent petty empires that command our loyalties and teach us the social value of masculinity at the expense of women's lives.It won't hurt us to do so since most of the violence that males experience is male violence to begin with.

"You're playing like a bunch of girls out there!" Try saying it as the compliment that it should be, not the insult we've made it.

It would be a terrible shame to surrender this planet to those who terrorize its inhabitants, to those who destroy it for profit, to those who have
perfected the means to obliterate it for reasons of empire.We are surrounded by great beauty everywhere, much of it human in nature, all of it worth struggling to preserve, to share, to enjoy.If the other bits of paper hanging on the walls in this room have anything to do with these words, then maybe that is it.

(This statement was part of a show of Marc's paintings at Gallery 1313 in Parkdale).

Whether we act to end our complicity is the question for all of us.

Marc Brzustowski
Parkdale, December 1, 2001


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