PORN
by Max Gordon
Sapience Magazine
April 2006

Porn is in my life again.

Sometimes when I look at porn, I can’t stop. I walk away eventually – but usually hours, or most of an entire day, have gone by. On occasion, I’ve forgotten what time or what day of the week it was, missed appointments or gone to bed at dawn because of porn. I always tell myself that I’m only going to watch it for a few minutes - as I’m leaving for work, after I finish dinner, right before bed. Three hours later, four or five or six hours later, I’m still sitting there, staring at the screen, wondering where the time went. I’ve lost years like that.

I’d had several months away from porn this last time. Then I just got up one morning last week, walked over to the computer and went to a porn site. I was disappointed in myself for failing yet again, but I felt excited too. I’d missed my porn. When I downloaded the first image and felt the familiar rush, the release of tension. It’s like I hadn’t been away at all.

article continues at http://www.pornatsapience.blogspot.com

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posted by wonderboy19: I'd like to share this essay and ask the question, is porn political? What place does it have, if any?

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posted by goyanamasu: It just struck me that my last post was class-ist and I didn't invest enough of myself in the abstract model I try to set up for you.

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btw: goyawhatchamafuck: this isn't an online singles bar. trying to include others in such scenarios without their consent is creepy. You might legitimately think it's healthy and "therapeutic" but nothing nonconsensual ever is. If it persists people like me will ask that you be banned.

[eta: I just realized what forum this is. My apologies if i appear to be acting the white knight.]

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The blog link didn't work for me so I couldn't read the whole article. The addiction being alluded to is sad, frightening and serious but subsequent postings and discussion have been deleted. I feel like I've missed some kind of thoughtless 'bait n' switch' maneuver.

Can anyone enlighten me here? Or should I just give up?

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I don't see why the OP was in the FF in the first place.

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Snickers aside, the statistic that most strongly demonstrates that the blog post above is an aberration is given by hotel chains with pay-per-view pornography - the average view time is 11 minutes.

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This proves absolutley nothing except that the average time it takes to get off is 11 minutes. That's all it proves. Doesn't prove shit about porn addiction.

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Originally posted by skdadl:
I've given up, AA. I don't see why the OP was in the FF in the first place.

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I think someone had a series of brain farts and thought he was being smart... or some damn thing... and then got called asshat and realized he was more than a few yards off side.

I saw a post you made in another thread the other day that struck me as odd at the time (I think it was the Opus Dei thread, where you've deleted your comments as well). The oddity was in the lack of context for what seemed to be intended as a bit of flirting / innuendo. (Edit: I shouldn't say "lack of context", as there was already some ribaldity in that thread, but your post was personalized to a degree that made me uncomfortable, and I wasn't the one it was directed at. I'd add that I didn't find all of your posts in that thread objectionable, although I have trouble now remembering what you said exactly.)

Innuendo certainly isn't banned on Babble, but as in real life, it's a judgment call as to what the right time and place for it is, and how far you want to take it. It's a matter of thinking before you post, and not posting everything you think.

(Sorry to everyone else for the continuing disruption.)

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This proves absolutley nothing except that the average time it takes to get off is 11 minutes. That's all it proves. Doesn't prove shit about porn addiction.

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It certainly demonstrates that his typical behaviour of "spending hours" watching porn is abnormal.

I would be offended if someone took it for granted that I would play their game at the drop of a pin. That's where, on another path, it looks like flirting: pure repartee but without mutual confidence.