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Topic: Sexual assault "nothing serious" says perpertrator
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Summer
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posted 04 March 2008 05:29 AM
This is about a month old, but I just read about it in a blog. I don't think I've seen it discussed here yet. A grad student was unable to control himself in the presence of a female student and gave in to his need to kiss the top of her breasts while in an elevator. Poor baby boy, he was just giving in to his red-blooded male urges, now he's worried that his academic career may be adversely affected. “You can't expect all males to control themselves when the breasts are out,” he said. From CBC.ca quote:
A St. John's university student has been sentenced to two months in jail after sexually assaulting a student in a campus elevator. SNIP Azarsina pushed a woman's arms aside and then kissed one of her breasts in an incident at Memorial University's main campus last September. At the time, Azarsina admitted to the incident, but said it was "nothing serious."
From the complainant's point of view: quote:
Speaking outside the courtroom, the complainant said the event has changed her life. She said she has been prescribed sedatives, because she has trouble sleeping at night. SNIP "For you to say that what you did was no big deal, and you meant nothing of it, is possibly the most ignorant, arrogant thing that I have ever heard," she said.
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saga
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posted 04 March 2008 01:40 PM
http://www.thespec.com/article/321130Police chief wants to know why 25-year-old accused of assaulting sex trade workers is free The Hamilton Spectator February 07, 2008 Susan Clairmont He made "a mistake." That is what accused serial rapist Najim Khairzad tells me. Then he promises -- with a shrug of his shoulders and his palms turned skyward -- that he won't make the same mistake again. Here is what Khairzad is charged with: three counts of choking, one count of assault, three counts of sexual assault, three counts of forced anal intercourse, one count of threatening and three counts of forcible confinement. Six different women. All sex trade workers. And those are just the ones police know about. Investigators say they believe there are more. Other victims who may be too afraid to come forward. If so, they may be even less likely to talk now that Khairzad is out of jail. Yes. Out. Since Monday. On $70,000 bail. Even though police vehemently opposed his release. Even though the decision by a justice of the peace would -- and has -- drawn fire from local women's groups. Nearly two dozen of them. ...................... What was this judge thinking!!
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sanizadeh
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posted 04 March 2008 04:02 PM
About the story of that international student (Azarsina)...The story created a big storm on Persian weblogs. What a jerk, stupid nerd he was! But he has been properly punished for it. His life is completely ruined and his academic career is pretty much over.Like most others on Persian discussion forums (who pretty much crucified the guy online), I too was really mad at his statements. However after reading a more complete version, I realized that the media were a little selective with his words, not to mention that he made his point really badly because of language problems. This is not to justify his stupid actions in any way, but to give some background on his statement that he did not think his actions "was serious". As he has mentioned, if he had done such a thing in Iran he would have probably been slapped by the girl or her friends, or beaten up by police. If they would decide to charge him, his punishment would have been 50 lashes. But no prison term. "Sexual assault" in Iran is a term for rape, not kissing. This was probably the case in the west some 50 years ago too, before the feminist movement. Similarly, over there if you push someone to the ground, he would never think of charging you with Assault. he would likely just push you back. "Assault" in Iranian law means something really serious, like sending someone to hospital with serious injury. The concept that any touching could be assault or sexual assault is not immediately obvious to a new immigrant from a different culture. That's why, IMO, it is a good idea to require international students to go through a short class at the beginning of their study (at their own expense) and to make them learn the legal and cultural requirements of their new environment. Add to that the image of the west that is being projected to the world by Hollywood. The perception back in our home countries is that the west is a place with unlimited sexual freedoms. How many movies can you recall where an unwanted kiss has been shown as being punished just by a slap in the face, or even welcomed by the victim (I can think of a dozen right away)? I don't recall any show or movie that shows the fact that you may actually be thrown in jail for a kiss or touch. Again, not to undermine the criminal stupidity of this Iranian guy, but to show what he was thinking. When he says "it wasn't serious", he probably meant that he did not think the girl would be so offended, or thought the worst that might happen to him would be a slap in the face. He could not likely imagine being charged and sent to jail. That's perhaps another explanation why the ratio of rape among immigrants in Europe (who are mostly from lower class) is rather high. They come to a new country where -as they have heard- sexual freedoms prevail, without fully understanding the responsibility that should come with these freedoms. And as an Iranian-Canadian, I would like to apologize for what Farhood Azarsina did. Hope they kick his butt back to Iran (which they most likely will).
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sanizadeh
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posted 04 March 2008 04:18 PM
quote: Originally posted by Summer: I haven't seen any mention of expulsion, but he is restricted from going to certain buildings on campus as part of his sentence (or parole?).
IIRC, the university has suspended him for one year. Press reports implied that he was on student visa here. Considering that Canadian student visas for Iranians must be renewed on a yearly basis, this is probably equal to an expulsion order because Immigration Canada would never renew his student visa. of course, if the assumption about his being a visa student is correct. Also as a sexual convict, he will not be able to enter the US or any European countries. So his (previously bright) academic career is pretty much over. The publicity around this story will also create lots of problems for him back in Iran. A moment of stupidity can destroy one's life forever. [ 04 March 2008: Message edited by: sanizadeh ]
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Michelle
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posted 04 March 2008 04:26 PM
quote: Originally posted by sanizadeh: Like most others on Persian discussion forums (who pretty much crucified the guy online), I too was really mad at his statements. However after reading a more complete version, I realized that the media were a little selective with his words, not to mention that he made his point really badly because of language problems.
I was going to say that too, about Martin's comments about "the breasts". It is quite common for people with ESL to mix up their articles, and when I read his statement, I heard it in a Persian ESL accent (which I have gotten quite used to hearing). So I agree that him saying "the breasts" instead of "their" or "her" breasts is just a language thing. But the sentiment behind the statement even had he used the proper article is beyond belief. Men can't help themselves when women show their breasts? I don't think so, buddy. And sanizadeh, I completely believe you on the reactions you've been seeing to this story. I've met many Iranian men in the past decade through a family connection, and I can't imagine any of them even DREAMING of doing such a thing to even women of their acquaintence, much less strange women. While I think you are right about a much different judicial culture when it comes to what kind of touch is legal and what isn't (and what kind of punishments are meted out), it's my experience that it's also a pretty strong cultural taboo in general for a man to touch a woman he is not in a relationship with or related to that could be considered sexual or flirtatious. I might be wrong about that, but that's my experience. So I can just imagine the reactions you've been seeing! I also totally understand what you're saying about the guy's statement, in the context of his past experience in a completely different judicial system. It's important to take that into account when judging his confusion over how serious it was. I guess he knows now! (Although, I don't know about you, but I think I'd rather go to jail for a couple of months than endure 50 lashes! Of course, that depends on whether the jail is a Canadian or Iranian jail. ) Do you want him deported? I'm not sure I do. I mean, if they guy's just here on a student visa, then okay, I can see your point. But if he's in danger back home (or will be because of this) then I wouldn't want to see him deported.
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sanizadeh
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posted 04 March 2008 04:26 PM
quote: Originally posted by kropotkin1951: Its nice to know you aren't really blaming the woman who was assaulted. It is in fact our decadent western culture that he didn't understand. I don't believe for a minute that any Iranian woman would have considered this anything except an outrageous sexual assault.It is not a moment of stupidity it is a criminal offence. I'll let the women on this forum explain how your comments on the women's movement in your other post were paternalistic .
You did not read the whole post that I wrote, did you? Of course what he did was criminal. that's why he was rightly sent to jail. That, IMO, he acted out of stupidity does not make it less criminal. What did I say about the feminist movement that you found offensive? [ 04 March 2008: Message edited by: sanizadeh ]
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sanizadeh
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posted 04 March 2008 04:36 PM
quote: Originally posted by kropotkin1951: I read both your posts in their entirety.
Well I thought my point was clear. The fact that now unwanted touching or kissing is considered an assault, is a great achievement resulting from the feminist movement of the last few decades in the west. I don't understand how this would be offensive toward women's movement. And the fact that there has not been a strong feminist movement back in Iran and the Middle east has contributed to the problems as shown in Azarsina's case. That's why we need strong feminist movements in the Middle East.
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sanizadeh
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posted 04 March 2008 04:37 PM
quote: Originally posted by Michelle: All right guys, let's not fight about this.First of all, I don't think sanizadeh's post was paternalistic. He was trying to explain some of the language barriers and "culture shock" that people experience when they come to a new country with completely different rules. And about the false perceptions that they might have of the west and what is acceptable here and what is not. I think he denounced the guy's actions enough for us to understand that he's not excusing anything.
Thanks. You pretty much summed up what I was trying to say. Obviously I still have a language problem!
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