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Debra
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posted 21 December 2002 11:26 PM
I personally embrace each new decade. I feel stronger, healthier and happier now than ever.I've never considered my body as an ornament I've always appreciated the miraculous things it can do I don't know if that makes a difference in the way I approach ageing or not. Certainly after birthing and nursing six children I'm not as perky as I once was, but they are healthy, don't get caught in my jeans zipper and still attract attention. My arms my have a little more movement than they once did, but I'm stronger than a lot of younger women. I feel empowered by the things I've experienced and the things I've survived. And I hope to live to a ripe old age with lots of grandchildren and great grandchildren. [ December 21, 2002: Message edited by: earthmother ]
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flotsom
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posted 22 December 2002 12:13 AM
"During every day of an unillustrious life, time carries us on. But a moment always comes when we have to carry it. We live on the future: 'tomorrow,''later on,''when you have made your way,''you will understand when you are old enough.' Such irrelevancies are wonderful, for, after all, it is a matter of dying. Yet a day comes when a man notices or says that he is thirty. Thus he asserts his youth. But simultaneously he situates himself in relation to time. He takes his place in it. He admits that he stands at a certain point on a curve that he acknowledges having to travel to its end. He belongs to time, and by the horror that seizes him, he recognizes his worst enemy. Tomorrow, he was longing for tomorrow, whereas everything in him ought to reject it. That revolt of the flesh is absurd." I struggled silently through the last half of my twenties, trying to come to terms with something I hadn't enough sense to be aware of. I lived recklessly, tearing away at nothing, at the night, at fate, at something I could feel was following me into the street. Always at my back. I can laugh now, but there's a bitter taste. I'm still young, but a part of me has arrived already, it would seem. The glass of water that I placed just now on the desk is going to fall. It hasn't yet, but it is about to. Camus captures this awareness precisely in the passage above.
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Debra
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posted 22 December 2002 12:28 AM
Trying to coax Lagatta over here.The poem seems to me to be raging against death not old age, and to be cognizant of the things in front of you and appreciate them in their time not wish them away. Why do you feel ageing requires passivity? It is surely not for the faint of heart. Wisdom too comes with an heavy price tag and is not borne on shoulders that cannot bear the weight of grief, and knowledge that one would rather not have. What is it that you are fighting? Age will come regardless. Some women feel demeaned by age because they have swallowed the youth myth of western culture. I prefer not to have my worth determined by people who know little of what is of true value.
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Debra
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posted 22 December 2002 08:00 AM
quote: The worst thing is the palpable reality of one's own death.
Maybe I'm just not close enough yet, but even in that I find strength. It helps me to realize that we are all made of the same star stuff and that we all need each other. It helps me to realize the stupidity of war, and the absolute unconscionable act it is to not have programs fully supportive of all societies human needs. Which extent beyond bare subsistence and flimsy shelter. We already know that babies who are not properly tended to will on the one hand die of failure to thrive or on the other hand be unable to form human attachments. A knowledge of die gives a more complete awareness of life. It allows one to glory in the things that so many take no notice of. The smell of summer rain on the wind, of ice in the air on a late fall day, the song of baby robins on a spring morning, the way some sunsets look like they were painted by Bob Ross happy little trees and all.
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lagatta
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posted 22 December 2002 09:25 AM
The other thread is not about ageing, it is about alternatives to Christmas. I happened to mention in passing a depressing note I came upon, in the midst of all the other seasonal shit. It certainly was not the thrust of my post, in which I was talking about how I intended to deal with a holiday I loathe - and no, it did not and does not involve sitting around and feeling sorry for myself, but various social, cultural and physical activities (Yay, no snow, I can ride my bicycle!)Funny, speaking to my old friend Lea Roback, who lived to be well over 90 and remained a militant to the end, she was certainly happy to be alive and not at all a glum person, but had no truck with those who saw the ageing process as something positive. It made it harder for her to get around, to demonstrations! Perhaps because neither of us had children - or any desire to. I'm wondering why you decided to put this thread in feminism - I'd think a discussion of ageing would fit better in body and soul. Of course women are judged more harshly and our (male) partners tend to leave us for younger women (here I'm talking about heterosexual women, talking with a lesbian friend of mine about this topic the issues are a bit different but exist just the same) but I don't think fear or anxiety about ageing is limited to women, or there wouldn't be such a business in hair transplants or dealing with men's performance anxiety. Or are you insinuating that I'm not a feminist because I think ageing is the pits? Like it or not, we are judged by the standards of our society, and it is far harder for a woman my age (almost 50) to meet someone than it was when I was 20 or 30. I don't like that, I don't want to be a eunuch, female or otherwise. Fortunately of late I've met someone compatible who seems very fond of me (and his brat is raised) but he lives far away and I have no idea how that will go. No, my self-esteem doesn't depend on having a man, but I don't like living a lonely life in that very physical and intimate sense. (Lots of friends, don't worry).
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Michelle
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posted 22 December 2002 09:51 AM
I think that's the reason earthmother opened a new thread on this - because your brief comment on the other thread opened up a new tangent of thought that she wanted to explore. This thread, to me, fits in both the feminism forum and the Body and Soul forum - just depending on what aspects of aging we focus on. I think aging is definitely a feminist topic as it pertains to women - women lose a lot of their social value in our culture as they age, and it is portrayed as an extremely negative thing. I didn't see earthmother say anywhere that you're not a feminist because you don't like aging. We all go through things in our lives that make some of us feel bad and others of us feel empowered. I don't see you as anti-feminist - if anything by your post you seem to be railing against the same thing that the rest of us are - that women as they age start being considered less valuable as partners. Using "brat" as a generic term for people's children is offensive when you're having a conversation with a group of women, knowing that some of them have children. I have no problem with your childless lifestyle, but I resent it that you seem to have contempt for my choices.
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clersal
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posted 22 December 2002 10:55 AM
quote: One of the worst things about aging is the realization that one will not, after all, change the world. The second worst thing is the realization that it doesn't matter a damn whether one tried to change the world or not. The worst thing is the palpable reality of one's own death.
I go along with all that except the last sentence. It is how I die that could be bothersome, not dying. quote: Like it or not, we are judged by the standards of our society, and it is far harder for a woman my age (almost 50) to meet someone than it was when I was 20 or 30. I don't like that, I don't want to be a eunuch, female or otherwise.
Join the golden age groups. Lots of people there.
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Timebandit
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posted 22 December 2002 04:32 PM
quote: That is my right, and it doesn't mean that I am not concerned for the welfare of children or horrified at their mistreatment.
That you don't hate children in the abstract isn't the point, lagatta... It's just that you are very negative about them in any concrete context. I'm not saying you have to or should like kids, but when you're talking to a group of women, many of whom have not only had children but find the bearing and rearing of them empowering, being very negative can be taken as rather an insult. In the extreme, it shows a lack of respect for a chosen path. I don't think anybody here has expressed nearly the negativity about your choice not to have children that you have expressed over having to deal with them in any way, shape or form. In fact, personally, I fully support the choice of not having children. Many of my closest friends have made that choice. Try to remember that children are people, too, and that terms like "brat" are slurs. Using it is a form of ageism. You would never use a racist slur when referring to a person of colour, even as a joke (although we all know people who do). It's kind of the same thing, and it doesn't show your cultivated side to its best advantage.
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Timebandit
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posted 22 December 2002 04:44 PM
On aging (back to the topic at hand)...I am in my late 30s. I'm starting to notice changes -- laugh lines that don't fade when I'm serious, grey hairs starting to come in at the temples, an extra few pounds that don't want to disappear, a little less elasticity in the belly than younger mothers... I have very mixed feelings about aging. On one hand, I'm not altogether positive about it. I've always looked considerably younger than I am, 5 or 10 years depending on the day. I think I will miss looking very young, will miss the looks I used to get. On the other hand, I'm very comfortable with my age and the space I'm in, more so all the time. I would never want to be 20-something again. I'm also watching the aging process in my mother -- at 60, she is still very beautiful, and I hope I am fortunate to age in a similar way. My grandmother, on the other hand, is 87 and is becoming very frail. The blond guy's mother is 83 and is losing her mobility after breaking her hip last spring, and is getting a little dotty. I don't think extreme age looks like much fun, but as my gran told me, you get away with a lot more. That much I'm looking forward to.
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Flowers By Irene
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posted 22 December 2002 05:47 PM
Turning 20 was a big deal. "Blech! I'm like halfway to a mid-life crisis!" But now I'm a few months from 25, and I don't know, I get older every day, but still, I'm ID'd at bars. I don't really think about it. I've two grandparents in their nineties, one greatgrandfather lived to 100, a greatgrandmother to 96, so I consider 'old' to be like 80. Well, strike that. My dad is in his 60s, and he's old. Mom is in her late fifties, but I don't think of her as old. So I guess old to me 60s. I don't fear getting old, it happens to everyone lucky enough to live that long. I may be in my mid 20s, but I think I'm still a kid, basically.
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Catalyst
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posted 23 December 2002 01:09 AM
Y'know, I never really considered what it would be like to reach my age (35). I never thought much about it at all and was frankly surprised to make it thus far. I started getting my grey (well, actually white) hairs at 18, have become rather chunky and been unable to lose most of it due to an accident five years ago and am beginning to lose a little bit of my flexibility. I actually must stretch every day to do the things I previously found effortless. When I was growing up, I was cut off from the generation before my parents due to distance form my extended family. I had no idea what aging would mean. The maximum age of anyone I saw with any frequency was early forties, and that, at the time, seemed ancient to me. I never considered aging until my grandparents began passing away (still at a distance, I never saw them ill) and watching my Dad become extremely unhealthy. But the prospect still remains oddly not frightening. Do I worry that I may not be healthy as I age? Well, of course I do. But the prospect of death is not restricted to the aged in our society and I will be happy to be alive each day until the inevitable happens, hopefully well after I finish my "to read" list, which grows daily As my Mom has always said, "Aging sucks, but it beats the Hell outta the alternative!"
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vickyinottawa
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posted 10 January 2003 09:56 AM
I turn 35 today. I guess I'm thinking a lot about aging today!tick tick tick
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 10 January 2003 11:20 AM
I hope I'm not "leaving the seat up", by posting in here with a big Mr. beside my name, but I have a curious question to those of you older than 30:Which, if either, was worse: turning 30, or turning 29?
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skdadl
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posted 10 January 2003 11:57 AM
Among my women friends, I definitely remember turning forty as the time everyone did the most soul-searching and kept turning over questions about aging in the abstract: the baby question, obviously (can I ever have one now? can I still have another?), drives that questioning for many women. I empathized with all the questioning, although I was a bit of an exception because when I was thirty-nine I was suddenly in love for the time that counted, and babies were out of the question, so I just felt wonderful, on the verge of adventure ...I'm looking back now from a very different situation. Everyone I know has had to accept, by their late fifties or sixties, that one bit of the sky or other is going to fall any day now. I'm not exactly used to it, either, boy -- some days I am scared stiff; some days I'm depressed at what age does to us; some days I'm really nostalgic for my own younger self, the way she looked, her energy, her freedom. And there are some other younger selves I miss a lot too. I guess, in answer to the topic question, I'd say that I have every mood possible at different times when I think of aging. It can be exceptionally cruel -- it can really break spirits, and I'm committed now to forcing a lot of people to face just how hard we make life for the old, how little we credit their fears and their desires. Some day, when I'm free, I'm gonna get very in-your-face with the politicians and the bureaucrats ... *smiley makes a muscle* But some days I think of the 85-yr-old and the 89-yr-old I know best, and my breath is taken away by how brave and creative they are. And some days I feel ok m'self. Happy birthday, vicky.
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 10 January 2003 12:46 PM
Hrm. I'm still relatively young (35), so I'm not complaining much, although my back aches today The reason I was curious is that I really felt like I was crossing a line when I turned 29... perhaps the impending 'doom' of turning 30 was stronger for the year that it loomed than it was for the day that it happened. More interestingly a number of friends had the same experience: 29 bad, 30 OK. As to aging in general, I fear the breakdowns, but mostly I fear death. My fond hope is that as one gets older this fear "magically" gives way to a quiet acceptance of one's place in the cycle of life. If not, I pledge that I shall not go quietly into that good night! On the other hand, I'm strengthened by seeing older people such as my wife's grandmother, who's only a year or so shy of 100. She's got a bad heart, she creaks when she walks, but her mind is 100% there, and all the brighter for having spent a century on this planet. She still shops, cooks, gardens and lives at home with her son (my father in law). Interestingly, she's happy, but she kind of wants to die. Not enough to nudge it along, but I think she's kind of looking ahead to it. I envy that. Even if I don't make it to "the big one-oh-oh", I hope that when my time comes I can face it with a bit of curiousity and acceptance. As they say, "death is the biggest trip of all, so save it 'til last"
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posted 10 January 2003 12:47 PM
Happy Birthday Vicky! I found turning 50 to be at best, an experience which provoked a certain introspection. There seem to be things I can't do as well anymore. There are aspects of my health I can't take for granted anymore. There is also the inevitable process of evaluating your life to date. I guess I'd have to say I feel OK about that more times than not. I come from fairly long lived stock, as does my wifes family, so I've had, and still have many inspiring role models on how to live lifes later stages with energy, productivity, humour, style and class. I've learned that when the inevitable comes, you can even die with style and grace. Anyway, I'm beginning to kinda bum myself out here as I ramble on. I think I'll take an early lunch.
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Timebandit
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posted 10 January 2003 01:55 PM
Many returns of the day, Vicky! (I have been reading too much Winnie the Pooh lately...)20 was okay. None of my 20-something birthdays were difficult. I cried at 30. Not so much because of the years, but I had a presentiment that it was going to be a tough year, and it was. Trials by fire, rapid and sweeping life changes. I wouldn't want to do that year over, but I learned some very valuable things through it. I'll be 37 in one month (I note Rebecca is another Aquarian! I might have guessed.). The blond guy is having much more trouble with 43 (a few days before my birthday -- we share a cake). I was thinking about being older when I was at the gym this morning -- some of the young 'uns routinely lap me now. In my 20s, very few could catch me. So I see myself slowing a bit... I'm not worried about getting old. I'm more concerned about dying young. My father died at 54, and there was so much he didn't get to do. I'm hoping to be a very old woman someday, but in the meantime, I'm going to make sure I get as much as I can from today. Edited to add: I think skdadl made a good point about turning 40. You do think about babies at this late-30s, early-40s point. I've had two in my mid-30s, and we've set my 40th birthday as the final decision-point on whether there will be more, and that's based on my aging process. I think it will be a time of much reflection and some hard decisions, regardless which path we settle on. [ 10 January 2003: Message edited by: Zoot Capri ]
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shelby9
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posted 10 January 2003 02:11 PM
Do I fear it? No. Am I annoyed by it? Yes!I am fast approaching mid-30's. I am annoyed that it has taken me so long to get my act together and keep my body in healthier shape (ie dropping 70 lbs so far and getting exercise). I am annoyed that now that I have taken this leap, I notice the wrinkles coming in full force, and now I get to battle stretch marks and skin folds too. I am annoyed that when and IF I find a husband, I am going to have more difficulties in not only getting pregnant, but carrying the child to term. I am annoyed that I can't seem to flit about like I used to. I am annoyed that I don't have the energy I once had. Am I looking forward to the rest of the changes bound to affect my life? Not particularly. I was lucky to be blessed with no cramps or real pain during menstration, I feel icky for about an hour, like I ate something not quite right. Do I look forawrd to trading that for hot flashes and moodiness... nope. Do I look forward to less mobility that I have now, and the eventual knee replacement surgery I WILL need on both knees thanks to arthritis? Nope. (never let anyone tell you that training and showing horses won't hurt you in the long run) But, I DO look forward to what the future might hold. I DO look forward to being a Mom someday. I DO look forward to watching that child grow up and conquer his/her own achievements. I DO look forward to spending time with someone I love as we get older. This ageing crap sucks. But I guess life's joys make some of it worth the effort. [ 10 January 2003: Message edited by: shelby9 ]
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vickyinottawa
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posted 10 January 2003 04:08 PM
Thanks for the b-day greetings, folks! I'm handling it relatively well. 30 was harder, mostly because I was between jobs (and switching careers, having recently abandoned academia), living hand-to-mouth, single, without kids or pets, renting... I spent the day soul-searching about all of the things I'd excpected to have achieved by that age and hadn't.... Fortunately I had good friends who helped me celebrate the occasion, and that made all the difference.5 years later, my life has changed a lot. I have a good job and a bit more focus in my career, I own a home (which I share with a canine friend). OK, I'm still single and childless, but you can't have it all, I suppose. The kid issue is the only thing bumming me out today. Time to take matters into my own hands, I guess...
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lagatta
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posted 10 January 2003 11:05 PM
If only it were just reproductively! (Though that isn't really fair, actually I do have friends who always wanted children and finally met someone decent in serious somewhere between 35 and 40, and nothing is sure). Unfortunately, it is socially as well, and women are judged far more harshly than men for no longer being in the first bloom of youth. The pits.Funny, as I repeat I know or have known older people who are or were (thinking of Lea who died not long ago) very positive about life - Léa, Michel Chartrand, another friend in France who was a resistance fighter, it goes on... But all of them, while not wanting to die, say the ageing process profoundly sucks. [ 10 January 2003: Message edited by: lagatta ]
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Lard Tunderin' Jeezus
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posted 11 January 2003 08:59 AM
Interesting topic.As with anything else, aging is a mixed bag. Since about 35, I've gained 15 pounds. Before that, I always had to eat more than everyone else and workout regularly to maintain a 'manly' weight. Otherwise, as a teenager I could have been the proverbial 98lb weakling. Of course, the weight I've gained now isn't the kind I'm used to carrying; it's mostly around my waist. I haven't had any of the nastier side effects of aging. I have all my hair, and I'm graying slowly and evenly. In the last five years (since about 40) I've noticed something that bothered me at first, but I've come to recognize as a bit of a blessing. I'm less sexually driven. In my younger days, all it took was a stiff breeze, so to speak. I still enjoy sex in an appropriate context, but I no longer get instantaneous erections at the sight of an attractive woman walking down the street, for example. I've never feared aging. Growing up somewhat baby-faced, I was somewhat impatient for it. Today I take it as it comes, and wonder at the changes it brings.
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lagatta
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posted 11 January 2003 01:42 PM
Hard to say. Agree about the ornamental stuff, and respect to a certain extent, but it is much harder to get a JOB when you are older (remember, I'm about 10 years older than you). Not contract work, but a job that could provide any benefits or security. Unfortunately I don't have a steady partner (I have met someone very interesting, and interested, several months ago, but it remains to be see what will develop, as he lives across the pond. I am returning to Europe in a couple of weeks, fortunately, I've been able to go several times to interpret at conferences.) It is far far harder to meet someone after an age that is now actually very young in terms of the projected lifespan of women in the developed world. It is different of course if one has a steady partner, but nothing is certain in life. My best friend's husband dropped dead on her a few years back, at only 52. I don't want you to think that this means I sit around obsessing about being lonely - I have far too many activities and friends for that and certainly always will as long as health permits - but it is a terrible empty space somewhere. It does rankle me when people deny the indignities of ageing, or the enduring discrimination against women.
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Timebandit
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posted 11 January 2003 04:44 PM
quote: Agree about the ornamental stuff, and respect to a certain extent, but it is much harder to get a JOB when you are older (remember, I'm about 10 years older than you). Not contract work, but a job that could provide any benefits or security.
Certainly, I've seen that to be true, if a regular job is something you want. My closest friend is 10 years older than I am, and I hear her viewpoint on things quite often. I do think, though, that any job security is largely illusory. In my case, at least at this stage, I prefer being on my own. Certainly in my area, age gives one a little more credibility. quote: It is far far harder to meet someone after an age that is now actually very young in terms of the projected lifespan of women in the developed world. It is different of course if one has a steady partner, but nothing is certain in life. My best friend's husband dropped dead on her a few years back, at only 52.
I'm sure that's true. Pickings were definitely getting slimmer around the 30-mark, and I have a number of friends who are still single or single again. And I've had a first-hand look at life stopped short at that stage, as my father died at 54. I'd certainly like to see my mother, now 60, find someone to spend some time with, but it's hard on several levels for her. On the other hand, my grandmother was widowed at about 58, and has always had a gentleman (or two) paying court. Still does at 87. Nearly 30 years of mature dating! quote: It does rankle me when people deny the indignities of ageing, or the enduring discrimination against women.
I don't think I'm denying either... I worked in a nursing home for 5 years while I was in university, as a nurse's aide. I've seen the indignities of aging up close and developed some strong personal relationships with people at the end of their lives. Even after I quit, I still came to visit a few who became very special to me, one of whom was 70 years my senior. It was a good friendship, we each had something to offer the other. But there is some up side to the aging process, here and there. Much of it has to do with attitude. (And I did not, for the record, mean in any way to imply you are relationship obsessed. It wouldn't even have occurred to me to take it that way. And I envy your trips to Europe -- it's been a few years now, and we miss Europe very much!)
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Timebandit
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posted 11 January 2003 05:27 PM
quote: I'm glad to see the example of "mature dating" - too bad things are so rough for your mum.
Well, my parents spent 32 years together, so starting over is understandably very hard. And my father was the force behind the social life, my mother is more shy. Add to that the fact that most of her social circle are married couples, and you have a big barrier before you ever get to the question of age. It also doesn't help that she is also currently raising a teenager, which takes a fair bit of energy, even though she's a really good kid. My grandmother, though, has epitomized the "sexy senior citizen". She was always very open about being a sexual person and about men. She also made the choice to maintain her independence, which I admire. She once told me that men of her generation tend to expect to be waited on and give orders, and she'd taken enough orders for one lifetime. She's a smart old bird, and a tough one, too.
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