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skdadl
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posted 11 August 2004 11:05 AM
I'm back, lagatta, with some substance. The "embarrassed" smiley was meant to signify that my ideals and my current actions are maybe just a touch distant from one another on this score at the moment.One of the things that design mags and advertisements have made me think, for some time, is that a lot of people are tempted to / are being encouraged to turn their homes into something like shop windows. I mean, the model rooms we keep being shown look like ... showrooms. It's as though we want to picture ourselves somewhere rather than actually live there, and have the "there" grow gradually out of our living, as an extension of us. That said, I know that you, comme moi, appreciate intensely genuinely beautiful things, expensive or not, and would be distressed by a purely iconoclastic approach to the way we decorate ourselves or our caves. What seems bothersome about the design frenzy to me is the expense of it all, yes, the conspicuous consumption, but even more so the feeling that it is all such a third-level experience, so heavily mediated by so much self-consciousness ... so obviously a sign of serious alienation. (There: I threw at least three different philosophical schools into the discussion: anyone want to try to add a Freudian interp too? )
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bittersweet
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posted 11 August 2004 12:27 PM
My ego is more tasteful than your ego? quote: It's as though we want to picture ourselves somewhere rather than actually live there, and have the "there" grow gradually out of our living, as an extension of us.
A lot of people I know seem to be casting around for a "lifestyle," as if that signified more authentic living. This search isn't limited to design, but includes what you might think are far deeper hard-wirings, such as a particular sexuality. I don't like the word "lifestyle." Although it blatantly says "style" (Hello!?) some people nevertheless treat the concept the way you mean "grow gradually out of our living." And so they never really live without noticing how it looks, and comparing it to received standards. They always seem so fidgety, so alone. Yes, alienated. I think this situation is a perversion of a healthy instinct for self-expression-- self-expression normally supposing a self to express in the first place. It's the cart before the horse. I had to constantly pause to check my own motivations when I was preparing to buy and renovate a house. I had been dreaming of the kind of home I wanted, and had used a scrapbook approach, cutting pictures from various design mags (I liked the frenzy because it offered variety) that resonnated with my intuition and "must have" values. I wanted a sanctuary, above all, even though it was also my primary work place. Doing this was the best way to fully imagine all the alternatives, to get clear on what I wanted. But what I wanted had already come out of living a long life, of forming a self independently of those magazines. The way I thought of it, I didn't feel enough affinity between my self and the conditions I was living in, and desired to change them to make things "connect" better. When it came time to talk to architects and contractors, I was able to give them an exact picture of what I wanted. The process is actually very intimate, if it's not just about "lifestyle."
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Loony Bin
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posted 11 August 2004 12:30 PM
Maybe we're all stunted in the anal phase, and collecting stuff is a way of making ourselves feel more secure and okay, even if (or because) we can't get our heads out of our asses and relate to the world and to each other in a more genuine, communicative and compassionate mode.I'm having a real problem with stuff right now. When moved away from Toronto, I got rid of a bunch of stuff that I thought was superfluous (mostly clothes I wasn't wearing or things I couldn't afford to ship, like a bike and a good chair). And now, in my new place, there's a lot less room for the minimal stuff that I did bring with me. And I don't even collect a lot of crap or nicknacks; it's mostly photographs and old journals and books. Stuff that I can't get rid of, even if I thought I wanted to... But I've got nowhere to put it, so it sits in boxes in the corners of all the rooms in my little house. And my new roommate is one who collects things and stuff. She's got a couple of boxes yet to unpack of just little ornaments and funny looking, useless things that're supposedly for decoration. I'm sure plenty of them have sentimental value, but not to me. And, she's always talking about more stuff that we need, like a pretty tin to put the cat food in, or a silver spike to stack toilet paper rolls on...and I tend to feel that stuff like that is, well, just crap, and not necessary, and just an expense--in addition to adding clutter to the house... So, I have a bit of a problem with stuff lately.
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lagatta
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posted 11 August 2004 02:15 PM
Danke schön, gula! Mile End, or the Plateau? I'm taking a bean salad to a friend's house just south of the viaduct this afternoon. I think one must just be ruthless, and do a big clean-out, systematically... I know, the stuff just grows. When my mum moved into a small apartment for seniors, I acquired one of her TVs, some pots and pans, etc. Had to limit such acquisitions severely. When I was over in Europe, living in a residency room at a research institute, I realised how little "stuff" I actually needed and how little I missed it (I missed my cat, and of course my friends, but I miss my European friends when I'm here...). But then, I had access to a lot of books to read.
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 11 August 2004 02:23 PM
quote: I think one must just be ruthless, and do a big clean-out, systematically.
Very true. I'd take the advice a step further, and say wait until one day when you stub your toe on some piece of crap you bought on impulse, and let your anger catalyze your resolve to clean house. When you arbitrarily pick a day, you run the risk of feeling sentimental that day and never getting any further than the first junk box. But if you hate your mess like crows hate owls, then you make some serious headway! Take no prisoners! Eat your dead! Toss it all, and let God sort it out!
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skdadl
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posted 11 August 2004 03:18 PM
Mr Magoo, if you think that I could clean all of this out in one day, well ... (Would you consider coming over to do it?) My problem with our stuff, and yes, a lot of it is still in boxes, is that I feel I must look at all of it and think about it before I toss it, or file it, or find just the right spot on the shelf for it. I sometimes wonder whether clearing out all the old stuff isn't just as much an illusion -- ie: it will give me a new, clean self -- as acquiring things is. Anyway, for now, I try to go box by box. I know that they are things, but they are things that had meaning once, sometimes silly meaning, sometimes more. How can you sort those out, one from the other, quickly? It is true: I would hate to lay this on to anyone else. When I become frail, I shall try to dispose of things ahead of time. Putting away someone else's life is very hard; an hour a day is as much as I can take, anyway.
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 11 August 2004 03:32 PM
Oh, I wouldn't suggest that it could be done in a day, nor quickly. Mrs. M. and I are in the midst of it right now, and we've come to accept that as long-term things go, it's up there with the Human Genome Project.All I'm suggesting is that if you can find the right day, then when you do as you describe and evaluate the need for various objects, you won't be quite so likely stare wistfully and say "Oh, but that's the bottlecap from the bottle from the pop I drank the day I met that boyfriend" and other similar self-delusion. You'll still keep the important things, but you won't find yourself staring at the crap with the same degree of ennui.
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Rufus Polson
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posted 11 August 2004 03:34 PM
Well, personally I'm a pack rat. I'm agin' cleaning stuff out. You never know when you might need it . . . except in the sense that it will usually be a few days after you threw it out. But I try to avoid getting that much in the first place. Except books and bookshelves. I expect the later stages of my decorating career to consist largely of figuring out more places I can fit bookshelves; painting the walls, e.g., will have become largely irrelevant.The only area where I have to do any kind of balancing, or have any real desire to get more stuff even though I'm not sure where I'd put it, is in the kitchen. Breadmaker, ice cream maker, got those, want an apple-peeling/coring gizmo, and maybe a really effective juicer if I could find one, and one of those little things with the handle on top and the hollow round bit at the bottom with blades inside, that you plunger down onto some onions or something and they get diced, and more/better knives I'd like, and maybe a deep frier, and so on and so forth--but really, we don't have much room for the kitchen stuff we've got, and it's easy to start nabbing thing after thing you'll hardly ever use. But I'm not sure if that's quite the same category--the point is not how it will look. The point is making snazzier food easier, and my ongoing belief that I'm going to cook more than I ever actually do.
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 11 August 2004 03:59 PM
If by "wimping out" you mean I'm not going to clean up your stuff, then ya. Although I wonder if it might be possible to do some kind of 'elephant chain' cleaning, wherein I clean your place, you clean Michelle's place, Michelle cleans Audra's place, etc., culminating in someone cleaning my place. I could be so ruthless with other people's stuff! No dilly-dallying over some dusty old wedding flowers, or yearbooks with strangers in them! Buh-bye, clutter!
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skdadl
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posted 11 August 2004 04:05 PM
I am still wondering what colour to paint the walls.Wasn't that how this thread started out? With the design mags? I mean, forget the stuff, for a moment. Does it bother you that you are bothered over what colour to paint the walls? I mean, thinking about which colour to paint the walls is already hard enough, but having an existential crisis over the fact that one is having an existential crisis over which colour to paint the walls is, in and of itself, agony, no?
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 11 August 2004 05:18 PM
Good point. Forget Audra then. Toronto only. Now if you can go to CostCo and get a 10,000 pack of green garbage bags, Skdadl can go to Canadian Tire and pick up 3 snow shovels and a pickaxe, and I've got an old army surplus HazMat suit that could come in handy. And could you please label your son so he doesn't get tossed in the chaos?
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 11 August 2004 05:32 PM
Cleverly label the boxes."Fluffy, 1995-2004, RIP" "Time Capsule: open in 3004" "Michelle's stuff" "Baby Snakes — do not open" etc.
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gula
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posted 11 August 2004 07:10 PM
quote: Originally posted by lagatta: Danke schön, gula! Mile End, or the Plateau? I'm taking a bean salad to a friend's house just south of the viaduct this afternoon. I think one must just be ruthless, and do a big clean-out, systematically... I know, the stuff just grows. When my mum moved into a small apartment for seniors, I acquired one of her TVs, some pots and pans, etc. Had to limit such acquisitions severely. When I was over in Europe, living in a residency room at a research institute, I realised how little "stuff" I actually needed and how little I missed it (I missed my cat, and of course my friends, but I miss my European friends when I'm here...). But then, I had access to a lot of books to read.
Well I moved to the Mile End but the City decided that it is now the Plateau.
And yes, I spent several years with nothing more than what I could fit on my back and never missed a thing. I started to throw something, be it ever so little, out every day. At this rate I should be through by the time I am ready for the retirement home.
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