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Frederic
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posted 29 March 2005 05:05 PM

Social Fact Tested and Approved

Here's the scene. There you are, in a crowded night club, when across the haze you spot HER. She's beautiful, and all alone, and looks a little sad. You make your way to her, only to discover that she's been stood up. How can this be? She's so pretty, and exciting, and, with a few beers in her, tons of fun. Over the next few weeks you help her move, pick up her cat at the vet, and take her shopping for sun dresses. Then one day, you stop by to drop off her taxes, just in time to see her drive away on the back of a bike with some drug dealers. "Why, oh why do women always fall for these bad boys?" you cry to yourself. "I'm so nice to her, why doesn't she want to be with me?"

The majority of datable women are nice and normal and perfectly happy with a nice and relatively normal guy. You know them. They're the ones you sit and moan to about the most recent woman to leave you for a drug dealer. You never even thought about dating one of them did you? Well, forget it. There's no way they're going to go out with you now that they know your pattern. Certain men go for women who will dump them for bad boys for four reasons. Find yourself in one of these categories so that you can avoid these pitfalls in the future.

1. Men confuse "fun girl" with "raving loony."

2. Some men like women whose lives are in constant turmoil.

3. There are actually women who like dangerous guys.

4. There are actually men who are too nice.

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skdadl
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posted 29 March 2005 05:07 PM

Frederic: marry me, or I will kill myself.

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DavisMavis
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posted 29 March 2005 05:12 PM

aw, skdadl, I always thought you were a "fun girl", now I know you're just a "raving loonie". But more to the point, why does this belong in the feminism forum? The trend of girls going for dangerous and abusive guys is troubling, and I guess you could probably qualify me as one of those guys who are "too nice", but I dunno, what's wrong with being nice? I guess I'm kind of confused as to the purpose of the post... are you trying to say that people like me have no future in dating? Might as well give up now...

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skdadl
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posted 29 March 2005 05:23 PM

Guys, it's not that I don't recognize the syndrome. I do. I work so hard at trying to convince people to stop overgeneralizing, but I accept that there sometimes is a little sense in talking about cultural syndromes, and this has been one.

I even have vague personal memories of it.

If it's any encouragement to you, there are a lot of sixty-year-old women around who are just so charmed to find that younger men are getting nicer and nicer as time passes.

I guess that isn't the kind of encouragement you were looking for, though, eh?

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Frederic
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posted 29 March 2005 05:24 PM

Expressing an opinion based on experiences on relationship that some women have with men is related with feminism.

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Gir Draxon
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posted 29 March 2005 05:28 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Frederic:
The majority of datable women are nice and normal and perfectly happy with a nice and relatively normal guy.

Yeah. They're perfectly happy with their nice and relatively normal boyfirends that aren't me.

quote:
Originally posted by Frederic:
You never even thought about dating one of them did you?

Well if they weren't all dating my friends, maybe I would.

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skdadl
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posted 29 March 2005 05:29 PM

I think that's fair, Frederic. And I'm sorry if I snorted prematurely.

I vote for the nice men. Hang in there. It will be worth it.

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Anchoress
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posted 29 March 2005 07:32 PM

quote:
Originally posted by skdadl:
If it's any encouragement to you, there are a lot of sixty-year-old women around who are just so charmed to find that younger men are getting nicer and nicer as time passes.

I'm convinced that younger men are *acting* nicer, I'm not convinced they're *getting* nicer. After a miserable break-up with a 'younger', 'nicer' guy, I'm back to craving grumpy old men.

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ShyViolet
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posted 29 March 2005 08:44 PM

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uma77
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posted 29 March 2005 09:00 PM

A woman that chooses a "bad guy" over someone that will treat her well probably has some major relationship issues that have yet to be worked out. I also know some men that are consistently attracted to women that are not the nicest people. When (and if) these particular women that love dangerous men realize and resolve these issues, perhaps the nice guys will be noticed. Until then, be happy in knowing that perhaps the woman in question is not ready for a healthy relationship with you. I believe it's less of a gender issue than it is a relationship issue (gay, straight, whatever).

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DavisMavis
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posted 29 March 2005 09:08 PM

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Actually nice, non-dangerous, relatively normal man seeks actually nice, non-dangerous, relatively normal woman preferably not 40 years his senior. Would prefer not to have to wait until woman grows out of the "riding on the back of motorcycles with drug dealers" stage nor is willing to buy a motorcycle and begin selling narcotics. Favorite passtimes include helping people move things, pet care, garment shopping, and doing taxes. Has been known to be too nice. Any takers?

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artfuldodger
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posted 29 March 2005 09:13 PM

I have been the victim a few times of these women who like dangerous men, I would like to think that I am a nice guy, (from some of my posts here you may not think that but I am far more conservitive in what i say in real life-I wonder why I can only speak with that kinda vehemence here

,but I digress) Each time that this happens it sucks, but hey, if I have to be a drug dealer or a scuzball to attract her, she is not worth it, because frankly I am not going to destroy my life for anyone, if she is worth your time, you won't have to change yourself in anyway.

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