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Topic: Offensive "No means have aNOther drink" t-shirts for sale
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500_Apples
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posted 20 February 2007 09:10 PM
Damn, I really liked bluenotes. *** In all seriousness, from the three or four bluenotes I've seen, their staff is 90% teenage female. I wonder how they feel. I wonder what their designers were thinking. I wonder what girls will think if they see a popular girl wearing that shirt at a party. I wonder what guy would not be too ashamed to wear such a shirt. But hey, what can you expect after girls tshirts that say "who needs a brain when I got these?" and "boys are stupid - throw rocks at them." (I'm not sure if these were from bluenotes, but the point does not change). Wasn't there a tshirt a few years ago that got pulled off the shelves because it was offensive?
From: Montreal, Quebec | Registered: Jun 2006
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writer
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posted 23 February 2007 01:36 PM
I've heard that the shirts have been pulled, that Bluenotes is going to work with the Canadian Federation of Students to design an empowering/educational t-shirt, and that the company will donate to sexual violence initiatives (not known which). Unfortunately, there is no information of any kind about this protest and its affect on the CFS website that I can find. According to someone at the Coalition Against Violence, last weekend, "members of the Canadian Federation of Students contacted Bluenotes outlets across the country calling for the t-shirt in question to be removed from their shelves. We have just learned that the efforts have been successful and the t-shirt will no longer be sold by that company." [ 23 February 2007: Message edited by: writer ]
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billF
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posted 24 February 2007 01:31 AM
OK, I’m just a guy, so it takes me while to catch on sometimes. (well, most of the time) It isn’t clear to me who the target market was. Was it women or men?If it was women, and I’m only assuming it was, I’d like to buy up the Tee shirts! In order to give it an empowering tongue in cheek message would require a simple addition. How’s this? "No means have aNOther drink" (by yourself) On the other hand, if the target market was male, the shirt could take on a new meaning again. A female friend of mine has a shirt that says; “The only way I’d lay naked with you is in a mass grave” I thought it was funny….
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billF
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posted 24 February 2007 12:57 PM
Bigcitygal, it was her shirt, not mine!So, reading back over the thread while less bleary eyed, I see the target market was male. Personally, looking at it from a male perspective, I see it as more defeatist than offensive. According to my single friends, the more you drink, the less likely members of the fairer gender are willing to talk to you. Therefore, having aNOther drink is tantamount to conceding defeat. Offensive in this case may largely be a matter of perspective. As for catching the next train to Stunnedville, I catch that one a lot. It seems to me it’s nearly impossible to say anything without inadvertently offending somebody. As an example, I crew on a few racing sailboats. One of the more competitive ones has an all girl foredeck crew, and we were in the marina bar after a race having some laughs and I said “Women can’t be competitive in this sport, they just don’t have the upper body strength. The only way around that would be to put strategically place winches around the deck.” A nonsailing lady nearby took offence in a big way, but the Foredeckers thought it was funny because big sailboats are all about strategically placed winches. They saw my comment as a sarcastic jab at males who think ladies can’t race. So, don’t be shy, a forum is for debate and discussion, please tell me why the mentioned shirt is offensive from your perspective. [ 24 February 2007: Message edited by: billF ]
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bigcitygal
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posted 25 February 2007 05:21 AM
Okay, billF, I'm going to break it down for you, then I'm done with this thread.1. The "No Means No" campaign began at least a decade ago, by feminists, rape crisis centres and other women's centres. There's an elaborate postcard that details "Silence Means No, I'm Tired Means No, Not Now Means No", etc. An excellent educational campaign, IMO. The backlash began immeidately and, it seems, every time a new batch of 20-year-old young men discover it, continues anew. It's an ongoing campaign to educate young women, and young men, about consent and sex. Ask First (U of T) RAMP 2. "No Means Have Another Drink". This is part of a concerted backlash by doofus idiots. Less palatable for t-shirts (I hope) were other phrases such as "No means hit her in the Face" and "No means do it anyways". Hilarious. 3. There's nothing funny about mass graves. So if you find it funny and I don't, the nicest thing I can say it we have different senses of humour. [ 25 February 2007: Message edited by: bigcitygal ]
From: It's difficult to work in a group when you're omnipotent - Q | Registered: Apr 2005
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Wilf Day
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posted 25 February 2007 05:57 AM
quote: Originally posted by bigcitygal: The backlash began immediately.
For example, at Queen's University in October 1999: quote: Perhaps the best known is the "No Means No" campaign, which gained great popularity, particularly on university and college campuses, in the mid 1980s. This campaign, at its heart, said that unless a woman said yes, she was saying no. Any ambiguity was to be interpreted as a no, or at least be heard as a demand for further discussion. Community reaction to this campaign was often highly critical. In one of the most publicized incidents, some male students at Queen's University began a counter-campaign that involved putting highly offensive and violent signs in their residence windows containing such slogans as "No means more beer" and "No means do it to me harder." These simply served to further reinforce the myth that "No means yes" and fostered a massive national debate on this subject.
They also served to scare off some prospective women students, such as my daughter in 1990-91 when the debate on "free speech" and codes of student conduct was still raging at Queen's. She visited Queen's as one of her three choices, didn't like the continuing atmosphere (which she blamed on too many private school boys going to Queen's), and opted for University of Guelph. Queen's' loss.Further described here. (Oops, that was October 1989.) [ 25 February 2007: Message edited by: Wilf Day ]
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Ken Burch
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posted 25 February 2007 02:20 PM
quote: Originally posted by Wilf Day:
They also served to scare off some prospective women students, such as my daughter in 1990-91 when the debate on "free speech" and codes of student conduct was still raging at Queen's. She visited Queen's as one of her three choices, didn't like the continuing atmosphere (which she blamed on too many private school boys going to Queen's), and opted for University of Guelph. Queen's' loss.Further described here. (Oops, that was October 1989.)
[ 25 February 2007: Message edited by: Wilf Day ]
Wonder if any of those "manly macho men" who put those signs up in the windows are now ReformaTory politicians? Sounds like they'd fit right in. (on edit) After reading the link, I feel genuinely ill, Wilf. Christ, what's the matter with that school? ...more importantly, what the fuck is the matter with my entire gender? How did so many of us get like that? [ 25 February 2007: Message edited by: Ken Burch ] [ 25 February 2007: Message edited by: Ken Burch ]
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pencil-skirt
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posted 25 February 2007 05:32 PM
I have received an email saying the T-shirts were pulled too, and I am pleased but still very unsettled. Here is a pic of the shirt I found: I am glad we have spaces like this forum to discuss issues from a feminist perspective. However, not all forums are like Rabble. Over the years, I have gotten into some debates with men over the No Means No campaign. I find it frustrating to no end, but somewhere, a piece of me still believes that not all men who don't quite get it at first will stay that way. Some men are lucky enough to have been raised in a feminist environment - either at home or at school - and will not ever think jokes about rape, or taunts about violence against women are funny. Other men are critical of the No Means No campaign and I wonder if it is possible to reach them. Since this t-shirt came out, I have had discussions in social settings and also online in some other forums, and on the globeandmail.com site about it. I am stunned when some men start saying that they dislike the shirt, but the campaign is flawed because it's not realistic to always get consent. They make comparisons of a man and woman who've been married for 20 years not asking each other to have sex before they do to situations where women allege date rape, saying it's ridiculous to ask a woman. Someone I know (but strongly dislike) said that too many women make false rape accusations, and actually said that being falsely accused of rape was worse than being raped. I know these guys are sexists and sometimes real jerks, but it worries me that their arguments resonate even a little with other men whose minds aren't made up. I worry about providing compelling arguments to win back the support of these uncertain men.
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