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BCseawalker
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posted 06 March 2006 03:28 PM
This report, which appears on the Victoria (Canada) Times-Colonist website, has my ire up. I've quoted snippets. The link to the full article is below. quote: Adults living the high life with parents Misty Harris, CanWest News Service Published: Tuesday, February 28, 2006Canadians in their 20s and early 30s are enjoying a life of leisure once limited to the rich or retired. They drive nice cars, take frequent vacations, have their meals prepared for them, and never, ever do their own laundry. Such luxury isn't afforded by top-notch educations or good jobs, although many of them have both. It's the upshot of living with their parents. According to social scientists, grown men and women are increasingly becoming caught in a suspended state of "adultescence." While their professional accomplishments permit leaving home, their unwillingness to embrace independence keeps them from doing so. "A lot of young people are telling me they could afford to live on their own, but they couldn't afford to live in the manner they're accustomed to," says Barbara Mitchell, author of The Boomerang Age: Transitions to Adulthood in Families. "It's almost like the luxuries of yesterday have become the necessities of today's generation because we've gone more into a consumer-oriented culture of designer handbags and fancy sports cars." Statistics Canada reports the number of twentysomethings living with their parents jumped from 27 per cent to 41 per cent over the past two decades... [Roderic Beaujot, a demographer and professor of sociology at the University of Western Ontario] believes the trend could leave a long-term imprint on everything from marriage and fertility rates to retirement age, noting: "The idea of Freedom 55 will have to be put aside..." "You can live in your parents' household now without being treated as a child," says Beaujot. "You're given all the privileges you would have as an adult, plus the advantages of having the work done by somebody else."
That 'somebody else' is invariably the mother. That was the first thing that jumped out at me. The other is what this phenomena says about consumerism and its effect on the family. Given the statistics reported in this piece, it's likely some Babble members are 'adultescents'. It would be interesting to hear your views and those of others. Full article
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 06 March 2006 03:38 PM
quote: That 'somebody else' is invariably the mother.
Is it? I wouldn't dispute that if some parent is picking up your socks, it's likely mom, but isn't dad out working to pay the mortgage in that case? Wouldn't a person living with their parents be enjoying a free ride from both of them? That said, I have a tough time understanding this phenomenon. When I was younger, most people were more than happy to eat KD and sit on milk crates if it meant getting the hell out of the house. It's really hard to imagine trading that freedom for a bit of free housekeeping and the ability to pump all of your income into Ground Effects for your car.
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Sven
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posted 06 March 2006 03:49 PM
There are probably a few good reasons for adult children to remain at home with their parents. Probably the best are cases where the adult children need to care for an ailing parent or an adult child is handicapped and needs the care of their parents.But, if an adult can live on his own but, instead, chooses to have mommy cook his meals, clean his room and wash his clothes so that he can have more “spending” money from each paycheck then, as a parent, I’d show the “kid” the door. I’ve got a 25-year old nephew that lives at home. He makes enough money to live on his own but has the luxury of having a in-home servant (a/k/a his mother) take care of his meals, clothes, etc., etc. So, he figures, “Why should I move out?”
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fern hill
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posted 06 March 2006 03:50 PM
This made me laugh. quote: Originally posted by CHCMD: I was on my own at 18 - the parents split up and both took one bedroom apartments . . . I took the hint.
I was on my own at 17 -- the parents moved to the burbs, bought white carpets and furniture . . . I took the hint.
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 06 March 2006 03:56 PM
I know that there are occasionally cultural reasons for an adult child to stay at home too. I know a guy who's Persian, and apparently it's common for the eldest son to live at home. This guy makes money hand over fist and all he has to spend it on is ridiculous toys. Anyone want a two foot high stuffed Cartman doll that says "Respect my Authoratuh"?But failing that, I think we need to also consider: what are the parents getting out of this deal? I don't believe for a second that they're all being held emotional hostage by their kid. They're getting something out of this deal. If nothing else, if your kid never leaves then you don't have to go out and buy a dog to fill the void. I also wonder how this fits with birth order. Are "onlies" more likely to stay home? The "baby" of the family? Girls? Boys?
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posted 06 March 2006 03:59 PM
Situations with grown children living at home can vary dramatically. I lived at home for half of my undergrad degree, and my sister just moved out for the first time ever (to take a job in another city), in her late 20s. But it was me, her, and my dad, and while my dad continued to handle stuff like our financial affairs until relatively recently, in some respects it was like three friends sharing a flat. On the other hand, my sister ended up doing a lot of the household work. She didn't mind some of it, but often felt a bit like my dad (and I, when I lived there) weren't doing a fair share of the chores. Another situation would be kids moving into their own places, but still "subsidized" fairly heavily by their parents. In my dad's condo complex, there seem to be a lot of quite affluent young people with a lot of free time. Now, they could be dot-com millionaires, or lottery winners, or mafia thugs, or something. But maybe it's that their parents are bribing them to move out. [ 06 March 2006: Message edited by: Yossarian ]
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posted 06 March 2006 04:27 PM
(BTW, I was uncertain in which category to place this thread - feminism, culture, labour and consumption?) I remain concerned about what this phenomenon reveals about consumerism's affect on Canadian society. Those StatsCan statistics - an increase from 27% to 41% of twentysomethings living at home - indicates a big jump. The point in the article about the Dr. Spock generation may be apropos and also others. Yes, adult children staying at home may benefit all family members in some households. Yet I'm aware in my own circle of acquaintances several situations in which the parents wish their children would leave and go out on their own. They wish this not just for themselves - and they wish it fervently - but also for the sake of their children. How truly independent is someone who hasn't left Mummy and Daddy?
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The Hegemo
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posted 06 March 2006 04:27 PM
I moved home with my parents for the last year of my Ph.D., plus six months of job searching after I finished. It was awful; I was miserably depressed most of the time. I'd guess it added six months to the time it took to finish my bloody thesis just because I was so isolated and down in the dumps. Unfortunately, though, the only other option right at that point would have been to pretty much double my student loan debt load just for that last year. So it didn't make sense in any way except for the financial, and as usual, that's what won out.I don't think my parents were overly upset or resentful about supporting me, but us being in close proximity all the time really strained our relationship. Especially with my father, who was retired by then, and dealing with his own issues around depression and being at home all the time. We get along so much better since I moved out again. I can't imagine doing it solely by choice, or when I had a job that was enough to pay the bills on. But I guess every family is different. (And my parents -- or I should say my dad, since he's the chief laundry-doer of the house -- haven't done my laundry since I was 12.)
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The Hegemo
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posted 06 March 2006 05:15 PM
Just while I think of it, on the cultural/generational aspect -- my late grandmother (b. 1915) was the child of immigrants from Serbia, and she lived with her parents until they died, even while she was married (my grandfather died fairly young, so she lived with her parents while single, married, and widowed). When her own daughters were growing up, I know she was resistant to them moving out of the house. She wouldn't allow my mother to go to any college apart from the one in our city, and living in the dorms was out of the question (she even told her what she had to major in, although my mom eventually did change that). I know that was partly for financial reasons, but she wouldn't even countenance my mother applying anywhere out of town. In the end, my mom lived at home 'til she married (at 21, so young by contemporary standards). My aunt did manage to get out and live on her own for a number of years -- I think she bounced back and forth between apartments and her mother's/grandparents' house.And I know when time came for me to start looking at postsecondary education, and I wound up going to school a 14 hour drive away, my grandmother was very unhappy. She kept asking my parents why they would "let" me move away like that. I know my folks weren't thrilled with the distance of my undergrad school (or the cost), but they never really tried to stop me from going away. I always assumed there was a generational aspect to my grandmother's outlook; that it was just natural to her that a young woman lived with her parents at least until she got married, and that she certainly didn't go off and live in another city (or another country, as I eventually did). But all these stories make it sound like young adults living at home is a wholly new phenomenon. Average age at marriage has gone up a lot in the past couple of generations...I wonder if the percentages of young people living with their parents until they get married has spiked, or just their average ages?
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skdadl
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posted 06 March 2006 05:20 PM
Mr Magoo wrote: quote: If nothing else, if your kid never leaves then you don't have to go out and buy a dog to fill the void.
And then, of course, he later wrote something even worse. So I'm here to testify for the older generation - an older generation, anyway. I've watched a number of retired/retiring couples cope with not just twentysomethings but thirtysomethings coming to stay at home, and I've never seen the oldsters happy about it. Mr Magoo seems to think that anyone who can't say easily to his own kid "Out!" is automatically a co-dependent. Well, that's Mr Magoo's idea of human psychology. In my experience, most parents have to work through feelings that are a lot more complicated than that. Mr Magoo started out implying that the parents somehow want the kids to stay at home because their lives are empty (implied by the "get a dog to fill the void" sneer). Again: I've never seen that. Retirement is wonderful for many people, complicated for others - but I have yet to meet a retired person who really wanted the younger generation around as dependents. Some parents may be ruthless about cutting the kids off when they come of age, but I think it is far more common for parents to feel really torn about adult children who hang around. It isn't a good situation, mostly, as I've observed it, but the fact that people are nice and are trying to be kind doesn't make them "co-dependents." You can go on loving your kids without wanting to live with them.
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Mr. Magoo
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posted 06 March 2006 05:42 PM
quote: Mr Magoo seems to think that anyone who can't say easily to his own kid "Out!" is automatically a co-dependent. Well, that's Mr Magoo's idea of human psychology. In my experience, most parents have to work through feelings that are a lot more complicated than that.
I don't mean to imply that the feelings can't be complicated, nor that parents should celebrate Junior's 19th birthday with a send-off. But just as with a marriage that's miserable, at some point you need to do something. You can't just wring your hands and say "oh, but it's hard!". If there are truly parents who are miserable because their grown up child is sponging off them, then I do think they need to do something, and I do think that if they allow the situation to drag on for years and years while continuing to do Junior's laundry then yes, they're in on it.
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posted 06 March 2006 06:01 PM
quote: Well the idea of a single young adult being expected to move out on their own is a peculiarity of Westeern culture. In most Asian and African cultures extended families are the norm, and living alone is rare. Just because now North Americans are realizing the benefits of making Mom do all the cooking doesn't make this a new phenomenon in human behaviour,.
Imagine, parents that don't mind if their children stay at home with them indefinitely. My my. How can we exploit these adult 'children' as cheap labour or mindless consumers of mortgages and all the trappings of indebtedness that come with 'independent' living? How can we exploit the aging parents for the burgeoning markets of medical and life 'assistance' if our seniors already have their own built in care system already? How can we continue to shred the fabric of family and community if such adult children continue to atttached to the family home and all those that live there. Sarcasm aside, it matters not to me. In fact, i think it has far more advantages than disadvantages. That said, there is no way i could have ever stayed in the house i was raised in simply because i was obsessed with my own 'sense of independence'. But today i reget not having been able to spend more time with the people who raised me because i moved so far away from them while chasing employment. And i still miss all that the family home represented to me as a youth.
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posted 06 March 2006 06:10 PM
The people I know who are living with their parents (some after living on their own for a few years) are in the situation because they can't afford their own place, or their parent (usually mother) needs help to pay the rent and bills. None of them are living there because they want a slave.It's a lot more expensive for young people to get out on their own these days, especially with the high costs of tuition, housing and pretty much everything else -- and few good-paying jobs for people just starting their full-time careers. And like someone mentioned, some of the supposedly independent youngsters with their own apartments are getting some or all of their rent (or tuition) being paid for by their wealthy parents. [ 06 March 2006: Message edited by: Secret Agent Style ]
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Sven
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posted 06 March 2006 06:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by Secret Agent Style: It's a lot more expensive for young people to get out on their own these days, especially with the high costs of tuition, housing and pretty much everything else -- and few good-paying jobs for people just starting their full-time careers.
If they are spending a significant portion of their meager income on discretionary items (going out, taking vacations, buying trendy clothes, etc., etc.), then they are not so poor that they have to live at home. Now, whether they live at home or not, that’s up to them and their parents. But, I do agree that for many of these young adults, it’s a matter of maintaining a high level of consumerism and not a matter that they can’t shelter or feed themselves.
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skdadl
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posted 06 March 2006 06:43 PM
Maybe ...I think it is hard for younger people to think of older people without projecting pity on to them. I think that because I remember doing it when I was young, just finding it so hard to imagine what retired people would DO with themselves, since they weren't doing what I considered interesting. What can I say? Young people are often lacking in imagination when they think of the elderly. Old people often have plans of their own, and reasons that the young cannot fathom. I recognize the importance of the question that Pogo has raised. However, I think it is unfair, given the practical pressures of the real world we currently live in, to foist all the responsibility for internalizing everyone else's conflicts and vulnerabilities on to people who have spent their entire lives imagining a certain kind of peaceable life and then suddenly find it's not there for them. Instead of people narking away at one another across the generations, I think it would be much more useful for us to try to imagine different kinds of buildings, different kinds of communities, where people could go on living together more supportively. Given most current arrangements, I have to say that it would be a cold and frosty Friday morning before I would live with anyone but a well-vetted partner ever again. And I don't know many people over sixty who don't feel more or less that way. Old people all know: to the young, we are barely visible, and pretty much dispensable. I'm sure there are exceptions - but if you're about to claim you're an exception, please recognize that you are an exception. Meanwhile, your parents are having private fantasies of freedom that they're probably too nice to tell you about.
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posted 06 March 2006 07:19 PM
I have seen situations like the one described in the article, and I have also seen situations where the adult children were actually ADULTS. They shared in the household expenses, did their own laundry and cooking (or contributed to the cooking), and basically got along as an extended family under one roof.I think it can work for lots of people, if everyone wants to be in that situation, if they genuinely get along well together, if everyone pulls their own financial weight according to their ability (e.g. if the adult child has enough money to buy a big screen television and jaunt off to Las Vegas with friends for a vacation, s/he has enough money to pay rent and buy groceries). It's not for everyone, but I wouldn't be immediately contemptuous of someone who was living with their parents before knowing what the "deal" was, even though I couldn't wait for independence and moved out when I was 18. Would I be contemptuous of someone who lives in their parents' basement and expects mom (or dad) to do all the cooking and laundry? Oh heck, yeah. I knew someone once who lived at home until she was 30 or so. After university, she found work, lived at home, got along great with her parents, saved up a decent chunk of money (and her parents didn't make her live like a pauper during that time - she spent money on other stuff too). I don't know whether she was paying rent or not - but her parents were comparatively well-off, so it probably wouldn't have been an issue even if she wasn't. And, well, it worked for them. So who's to say? Not only is it a more environmentally-friendly way to live if you can handle it, but if the situation isn't dysfunctional, it can be quite socially rewarding, too.
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posted 06 March 2006 07:20 PM
My kids are just turning 14 and 12, and I'm counting the days ;-) ;-)In reality, if they turned out to be pleasant, thoughtful adults who made good roommates, I wouldn't at all mind them living with me ... *if* I had a large enough house that we were all comfortable, and I had enough privacy that I could walk down my upstairs hall starkers without worrying about running into one of their partners. As far as laundry and cooking goes, they can already make a simple supper and do laundry, so that's not going to be an issue :-) This is a huge YMMV issue. I'm not essentially opposed to multi-generational households. But anyone sharing mine is going to have to pull their freight, financially, practically, and socially.
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posted 07 March 2006 01:26 AM
As somebody who's about the become a twenty-something adultescent, the idea for all is certainly not to get a "free ride". I wish, dear god how I wish, that it was financially feasible for me to move out, but I simply can't afford it right now, and that prospect is still quite far away in the future. It absolutely isn't a matter of extravagance. When my mother bought this house (closer to University, the bus ride from our old house was an hour minimum, on a good day) she hadn't quite sold the old one, so I moved in at the beginning of September for school, and was the only one living here until early December. I spent three months living alone, in an old house with no phone service, no internet, no television, no furniture, no private vehicle access, nobody to shop or cook or clean for me and I can honestly say that it was happiest three months of my life. I find the prospect of how long I'm likely going to be living at home utterly revolting.As far as my mother's side of me living at home, she hasn't mentioned any misgivings, and doesn't understand why I claim to want to move out and live alone.
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posted 07 March 2006 01:12 PM
I think the major parts of this would be the rise in those pursuing PSE, and the loss of income stability by many younger people. I lived at home until I finished my undergrad degree at 22. For a good portion of time following that, the basement suite in my parent's house has been occupied by my poorly educated younger brother with mental health issues, who is alternately employed in the oil rigs and making good money, employed in part time service work and making next to no money, or unemployed. Currently, my step sister, who just left a common law marriage with a large debt, is living there. We all view(ed) living with my parents as a way of cushioning us from economic circumstances that meant we weren't stable. My parents made clear they were glad to offer what they could to help, but it wasn't permanent, and I don't think they'll be upset when we're all financially stable (whenever that is). As I see it, more minor segments of this population would be kids who stay with/move back in with parents for physical care issues (theirs or their parents), growth in families from cultures where it is expected that children will live at home until marriage or such, and the smallest but potentially growing segments of selfish or co-dependent people who just can't bear to let go. But generally, I agree the article is sensationalistic. So much easier to talk about lazy, greedy children exploiting their either infantalizing or put upon parents, than look at structural issues like the marginality of many youth to the employment market, or the changing ethnic makeup of Canadians, the impact of the lack of child, home and elder care programs has on the living arrangements of Canadians.
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posted 07 March 2006 01:20 PM
This article seems to have struck some kind of uncomfortable chord with babblers.Despite the fact that the article authors refer specifically to grown adults who are financially able to leave and who do expect their childhood to be perpetuated by Mom washing the dirty clothes and Dad stocking the fridge, most of the responses seem to be about: 1. children forced back home by financial or emotional crisis 2. families from other cultures with different expectations 3. anecdotes about friends who lived with parents, paid rent and helped out with chores 4. personal experiences of "the time I had to move back home and it wasn't like the article says at all..." Did the author fabricate this trend out of whole cloth? Maybe. But I find it sort of funny how nobody's actually talking about the article.
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posted 07 March 2006 01:29 PM
quote: I'd say a poorly written, poorly reasoned, reactionary article
The inclusion of that stat makes the article poorly written, poorly reasoned, AND reactionary? I'll stick with the "struck a chord" theory, thanks. It's an article in a newspaper, not a paper in a journal.
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posted 07 March 2006 01:39 PM
No. Mostly babble. And while I'm certainly in favour of journalistic rigour, and the responsible use of stats, I think this would be on par with a newspaper say, for example, that that "the unemployment rate rose 3% this year" in an article about Free Trade. Would we be jumping down their throats for not including the 50 other reasons the unemployment rate could have gone up? Would it be irresponsible of them not to mention all of them? Would it be bad writing? I just think that if that's the ground on which you're dismissing the entire article (along with the findings of the author and sociologist quoted) then you're putting too much on it. I don't get the idea that the author is trying to paint every adult child at home with the same brush. They're just pointing out a trend.
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posted 07 March 2006 02:28 PM
Among the reasons being given for adult stay-at-homes is the pursuit of post-secondary education - which leads to the issue of credentialism. What percentage of today's high school graduates would go on to university if it wasn't necessary for the sake of their future livelihood to at least have a bachelor's degree? Post-secondary institutions (PSIs) have become big business and are increasingly funded by big business. Big business in turn says it needs more people with credentialed such-and-such qualifications. The symbiosis works for both: - The PSIs get additional government funding to offer more and more specialized programs.
- Big business helps pay the cost AND gets tax credits for its trouble. A win-win situation.
And young adults? They get drawn into that spiraling demand for more credentials.
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posted 07 March 2006 07:32 PM
quote: Originally posted by Sven:
“Credentials” does not necessarily mean “knowledge” but I’m sure there’s a relatively close correlation (i.e., a person with a degree in mathematics is likely to know more about mathematics than someone without a degree; not always, but usually). Hence, an employer wanting a mathematician is likely going to look for and hire someone “credentialed” in mathematics than someone without those credentials. So, unless you want to be swingin’ a hammer in the hot sun for a livin’, in a knowledge-based economy you will need credentials to indicate a basic level of knowledge regarding the matter studied.
Well, at least in BC, swinging a hammer would pay about 50% more than my MA has done for me so far.
We do have a cultural fixation with credentialism, which has lost the purpose and role of education (training citizens). Now we train workers, and citizenship gets lost in the shuffle. All credentials do, really, is provide potential employers with an easy way to sift applications. Has anyone, ever, asked you what your grades were in University? Hell, I work as a researcher, and nobody even asks me what my degrees are in. After the first 6 weeks, they look at your work, not your credentials. It's getting the first six weeks that is the purpose of the credentialing. Not that I didn't learn anything in school, I learned a lot, largely because I pushed myself to do so. I, and many others, could have coasted with about 1/3 the effort and ended up in the same place, with the same credentials.
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